We’ve all been there. Someone on our team or in our organization is behaving in a manner that would not exactly motivate us to want to help…may cause us to want to react defensively or simply ask “why should I help them when they are being so difficult?”
Do it anyway. Help because that’s the right thing to do. You are not in leadership and certainly not in HR for the accolades, so keep that in mind, perform whatever visualization exercise you need to get through it, and help anyway.
There is no ego in HR. I repeat: THERE IS NO EGO IN HR. I’m sorry if you didn’t read the brochure through to the end, but we are servant leadership for the organization. I’ve been fortunate in my career that my senior leadership, i.e., the C-suite had my back and supported not only me but HR. I know that not everyone is as fortunate as I have been, and I’m truly sorry to hear that, but that is not an excuse to not care and to not help in whatever way you can. Your behavior is not defined or dictated by other people’s behavior – EVER.
Not everyone will want your help. Not everyone will value HR or understand why they should value HR, and you have a unique opportunity to demonstrate that value and maybe change a mindset, but don’t spend too much effort there. People change when they want to. Don’t take it personally.
Good news: there are thousands of other professionals like you dealing with the same types of things, and we all have your back. We’ve been there and survived, and you will, too.
We all made the choice between focusing on ourselves or focusing on others. I can tell you that I have never regretted helping.
Be kind anyway.
Be happy anyway.
Do good anyway.
Give your best anyway.
It’s never been about them. You know what’s right, do it.